Cultivating Authentic Connections: Why Men Deserve Flowers Too

by Joshua Lane

Have you ever felt like you or your potential new members struggle to make authentic relationships? It’s happened to the best of us. While you are here, I will make sure you have the best tools in your shed to get the job done.

One thing is crystal clear in recruitment: meaningful connections are the secret sauce. “Brotherhood” isn’t just a word; it’s a symphony of genuine, love-filled, purpose-driven human connections.

So, grab your metaphorical gardening gloves because we’re about to sow the seeds of Social Excellence, “A state of perpetual generosity, curiosity, positivity, and openness to limitless possibility. A desire to intentionally connect with others. The ability to engage in deep, meaningful conversation. Acting in a responsible and respectable manner, with high expectations of others. Being authentic and living everyday with integrity as the best version of oneself. Being confident and vulnerable. Being fun and compassionate. Being open, kind and bold. The deepest level of societal participation and contribution, and sprinkle in a heap of friendly affection.” Remember, you have to be a brother to get a brother. Let’s dive in!

Now let’s approach recruitment with enthusiasm – perpetual generosity, curiosity, and a limitless sense of positivity! Create an environment where others feel like they belong and want to be around us. That’s the magic of Social Excellence! It’s like a masterclass in building connections.

We’re talking conversations so deep they’d put the Mariana Trench (deepest oceanic trench) to shame.

This, my friends – embracing connections and living Socially Excellent – is the recipe for a recruitment fiesta (party)!

Now, let’s address the elephant in the room. Men don’t usually receive flowers until they’re attending their own funerals. But who says we have to follow that script? Why not break the mold and shower your potential new members with a bit of floral love? Who can resist the charm of a perfectly placed sunflower? It’s like saying, “Hey, buddy, you’re awesome, and I’m not afraid to show it!”

Picture this: you stroll into a potential new member’s life armed with a bouquet, and they’re like, “Is this a rom-com or recruitment?”

Surprise! It’s both!

Let’s shatter the stereotype that men don’t appreciate a good bloom. After all, who wouldn’t want a little extra sunshine in their day? It’s high time we let men bask in the glory of floral splendor. Besides, flowers are like jokes – they make everything a bit brighter!

We’re not just in the recruitment business; we’re the maestros (teachers) of connection. Think about it: meaningful, love-filled, purpose-driven connections are our jam. Imagine a world where every potential new member feels like they’ve just joined the best sitcom ensemble. Laughter, camaraderie, and a touch of heartfelt sincerity – that’s our secret sauce!

Remember, people join people, and funny people?

Well, they stick around for the punchlines and the friendships.

Now, I know change doesn’t always happen overnight, but I know that it can! Here are some ways to create deep meaningful connections in our chapters:

1. Host Casual Meet-Ups

   • Encourage members to organize casual gatherings like going out for coffee, hiking, or game nights to foster a relaxed and open atmosphere

2. Practice Active Listening

   • Encourage members to be attentive listeners during conversations with potential new members, showing genuine interest in what they have to say.

3. Share Personal Stories

   • Encourage members to share personal experiences within the chapter, helping potential new members see the human side of being a member.

4. Celebrate Individuality

   • Organize events or discussions that highlight the diverse talents, interests, and backgrounds of current members.

5. Encourage Vulnerability

   • Create spaces where potential new members feel comfortable expressing their thoughts, feelings, and concerns without judgment.

As we wade through the mid-semester muck, let’s remember the heart of recruitment: genuine, love-filled, purpose-driven connections. With Social Excellence, friendly affection, and the revolutionary idea that men deserve flowers, we’re not just growing; we’re blooming!