Look at Yourself

by Matt Mattson

Take a look at yourself.  Right now.  Seriously, do it.  Look in a mirror… what do you see?  I’m not talking about the surface “attractiveness” stuff.  I’m wondering one thing…


You know the members in your organization who are almost always sending out positive rays of energy?  No, not the annoying cheeseball just dripping with fakeness.  I’m talking about the members in your organization that are genuine, caring, positive, seeking the best in others and in situations.  Think about them.  They’re not just in a good mood, they’re also “workhorses,” aren’t they?   They’re the ones who make stuff happen in your chapter.

Wanna know why?

Because they understand the leading organizations, improving lives and communities, and attracting new members is ALL ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.  They also know that the more authentic positive energy they send out into the world, the more people will like spending time with them, and the more they can influence those people… because they’re spending time with them.

Stuff gets done because of relationships.  Because of conversations.  Because of people connecting with people. 

So, if you want to influence people to make a positive life-changing decision (JOINING YOUR ORGANIZATION), you’ll probably need them to spend time with you, and they’ll probably spend more time with you if you send more authentic positive energy out into the world.  So, look at yourself.  What message are you sending with the energy emanating from your pores right now?

stuart-smalley-on-snlKeep looking in the mirror.  Now, try smiling.  Seriously…  Good.  Now, pretend that there is a person talking to you and pretend that you genuinely care about that person’s well-being.  See your face?  That’s good.  Now, put your shoulders back a little.  Lift your chin a little.  Look like you’re proud of the decisions you’ve made in your life.  Send out some energy to that mirror that says you’re one of the best of the best people around.  Send out the energy of a high performer.  Look into the mirror and look for the best version of yourself.

This isn’t some Stuart Smalley, “I’m good enough, and I’m smart enough, and gosh darn it…” exercise.  I challenge you to critically analyze the energy you send out to the world this week.  Ask a trusted friend to help you.  This time of year it is easy to complain, moan, and be utterly gloomy.  I get it.  Push yourself to be FUN TO BE AROUND. Go one step further… try not to bitch, moan, complain, or be dreary in your Facebook statuses.  Make people glad they read your status.  I dare you.

High performing, socially excellent, “workhorses,” who are great recruiters… they send out a powerful, positive, genuine, fun, caring, confident energy. The energy you send out is your choice.