A Social Excellence Love Connection

by Vince Fabra

I just finished up spending the last two weeks with Matt Geik recruiting at the University of Montana.  Darby Swanson, a freshman at UM, is a student who made a choice to be Socially Excellent. We introduced him to Social Excellence on Wednesday evening and he signed a bid on Thursday morning. Thursday afternoon, I walked out of the University Center and I saw Darby exchanging phone numbers with a young lady. I asked him to tell me about his new friend, and he explained a situation where he displayed Social Excellence. I was proud. I wanted to hear more, so I asked him to blog about his experience. This is what he had to say.

“I met this girl in my chemistry class which was being held in a huge lecture hall. I walked in and I was already feeling pretty confident from just having an all around good day. I sat next to her and gave her a smile and introduced myself and got to know her a little bit. As our conversation began, I thought about the day before, talking to Matt and Vince about social excellence. This seemed like a great way to get to know someone, learn about them, and practice social excellence. I choose not to ask the same BS questions like “Where are you from?”, “What’s your major?” Those questions get the same BS responses. My new friend and I were able to get into a really deep conversation about her. She really opened up to me and our conversation was authentic and meaningful.

Class ended, we walked together for a bit and parted ways. Before I got too far, she runs up and gives me her number, and I gave her mine as well. Not thirty minutes pass before she calls me wanting to go on a date in the near future. Social Excellence is an awesome way to get to know someone, but I felt it was also a definite improvement on my game. I felt our conversation blew her away because it was not the typical “small talk”.  She opened up to me because I genuinely cared about what she was talking about. I gave her my time and let her share about herself and be vulnerable.

Being a freshman in college is a nerve racking experience. I am meeting all these new people and it would be easy for me to stay comfortable with the same “Where are you from?” conversation.  However, I found that opening up and really getting to know someone was actually easier and far more enjoyable. Thank you, Vince and Matt.”

Thank you, Darby, for choosing to be Socially Excellent. Enjoy your date in the near future.  Social Excellence is the key to life, business, and relationships… not to mention organizational growth. Choose this lifestyle for yourself.  Experience how it transforms you into the best version of… you.