by Jason Allen
Let’s recap the definition of Social Excellence (n):
A state of perpetual generosity, curiosity, positivity, and openness to limitless possibility. A desire to intentionally connect with others. The ability to engage in deep, meaningful conversation. Acting in a responsible and respectable manner with high expectations of others. Being authentic and living everyday with integrity as the best version of oneself. Being confident and vulnerable. Being fun and compassionate. Being open, kind, and bold. The highest level of societal participation and contribution.
This. This right here friends is the most powerful and terrifying concept. Imagine if the world was always Socially Excellent. Imagine what your day would look and feel like. Imagine how amazing ordering your Chick-fil-a would be. Imagine how many people you could actually meet, and that you could even remember all of their names. Imagine answering honestly when someone asks, “how are you?” Imagine how many more people would do a better job flossing because they would be smiling more.
For me, this definition was my biggest hesitation when joining the Phired Up team almost one year ago. I saw these humans at conferences and events and immediately thought “there is no chance in hell that these robots are real people”. In the definition, I saw words like confident, vulnerable, and bold, and wanted nothing to do with those feelings. I believed Social Excellence means extroversion, and extroversion means being the most out-there person in the room, and being out-there in a room full of strangers makes me sweat profusely
Being confident and vulnerable and bold is something I treasure about others, but have a hard time realizing I posses those qualities. People often tell me they enjoy my confidence when discussing matters, and I assume they are being nice. People love when I share stories about my life, and I assume they are taking pity on me. I have been praised for my bold convictions on morals and integrity, but often feel judged and ridiculed. This is what the Phired Up team chooses to do all the time.
I don’t like being the center of attention and turn all shades of red when there are too many eyes on me. And the folks at Phired Up are often times keynoting and hosting dozens of sessions at conferences – which is something I wanted zero to do with. But, I soon realized that Social Excellence is different for all of us, and that these Phired Up people actually meant what they were talking about. Me viewing them as “out there” was just the team being generous with their time and spirit. Their extroversion was them trying to make intentional, impactful connections with people. They were real, passionate people, and were spreading a message they actually and truly believed in.
So, friends, what am I learning about my Social Excellence after a year of being on the Phired Up team?
As I think about Social Excellence, I can’t help but think about my reflection piece on masculinity. Social Excellence is reflected in that entire blog, I just never realized or named it that. And that friends, is the power of Social Excellence. We are all living it in varying ways. But, are we living it to our greatest potential?
How will you be Socially Excellent today?