by Erin Chatten
Can you guess what time of the year it is?
Holiday season? Guess again!
Officer transition? Graduation? Finals? Close… but no again!
We may think this insane time of the year is the time spent to shop for others, engage in holiday traditions with our friends and family, cram for final exams, or prep to transition in or out of our existing positions- but that’s not all it is. Tis the season for reflection and assessment…. Of your chapter that is!
Yes, you may be sitting there thinking… is this some weird Canadian tradition they do up there in the great white north? (No silly… that’s Boxing Day.) This time of the year is a prime opportunity for you to reflect on and assess how your chapter is doing.
Each year we hear about setting New Year’s resolutions, but those are mainly individual goals we set for ourselves. What about making resolutions for our fraternity or sorority? You know… these organizations we invest our time in to to help us grow us as a group and as individuals? Doesn’t that deserve some reflection and resolutions as well? You don’t need to be a chapter officer to assist in this reflection either, you just need to be able to ask and answer a few questions.
Chapter “success” varies by each individual organization, but after years of doing research on fraternity and sorority, we know a few key indicators of success and happiness in organizations. If you want to do a solo reflection, answer these questions for yourself. But, if you want to help assess your whole chapter, try asking these questions to as many brothers and sisters as possible:
After answering or asking these questions, what themes emerged? Take the largest challenge points and turn these into your chapter resolutions! If more people need to feel connection and that somebody cares, set up a time to do intentional compliments or speed date to help members get to know each other better. Are not enough ideas heard? Have each chapter member write down one thing they wish the chapter would do and start implementing them. Remember, what a sophomore member needs from the organization and what a senior member needs are very different.
Want to reflect and assess your recruitment too? We have a FREE tool already built for that!
Click this link to take the Dynamic Recruitment Assessment that will give you a score to help assess and improve your future recruitment.
Happy reflecting! We wish you a wonderful kick start to a fresh new year!
by Austin Netherton
With the recent string of negative events in the fraternal community, I have become fixated on asking myself, “Why and how does this continue to happen?” Fraternities are governed by strict rules and values, right? These values have been ringing in the ears of young men for decades as a guiding light to becoming a “good man” as was defined by their founders. So, how is it that anything could ever go wrong?
The thing is, times have changed. The experience of fraternity that is being delivered to young men must change as well if we hope to see a positive evolution in the culture of fraternity. Plainly, we have got to stop harming our members and guests. We have to evaluate beyond better harm reduction education and risk policy – what we can do better.
I recently read an article claiming that the young men of today are experiencing a masculinity crisis. I don’t disagree. I believe we are at a point in history where the vast majority of young men have been left to fend for themselves as they make their way into the muddy waters of manhood. With no clear teachings of what it means to be a man in the 21st century, paired with the social pressure for affirmation of their maturity, the young men of today have been left searching for their own coming of age experience.
For many young men looking to find the answer to, “what does it mean to be a man,” this search has led them to fraternity, where one can go to find confirmation of manhood, as offered from his peers in the fraternity – regardless of if those confirmations are healthy and true or not. I believe our organizations have failed young men searching for help on their journey to maturity. We cannot expect boys to teach boys what it means to be a man.
Let me explain.
I believe that when the majority of fraternities were formed there was a clearly defined role and expectation of men within society; roles and expectations that are further delayed for young men today than in the 1800’s. When our organizations were created there was no recognizable need to include any direction or philosophy pertaining to one’s transition from boyhood to manhood because, well… It was just expected that they were already “men”.
I think we can all agree that this is not necessarily the case any longer (no offense to college men).
With so many factors of modern culture shifting the expectations of men, and opening up room for debate on what it actually means to be a man, we have extended the transitional stage where boys become men through their college years. Society has changed and the issue has become that fraternity has not realigned itself to support its members in that transition.
For example, with the continually growing feminist movement, which has helped to advance the woman’s role in America, the responsibilities and roles of modern men have inevitably changed. However, in stark contrast to the women’s side of this change, there seems to be little to no conversation happening at any level amongst male leaders on how to best support these young adults entering into a quickly changing world.
What does this mean for our community?
By overlooking this issue sitting right in front of us, we cannot expect to create any change for the young men who have found themselves in fraternity while on their journey into manhood.
If we don’t help our fraternity members figure out what it means to be a man in modern society and help them travel that journey to manhood, we are likely to experience more tragedy. More tragedy is sure to come because without direction from our leadership through the creation of a contemporary fraternal experience, these young men will only continue to cling to the previous notions of “boys will be boys” behavior, where they experiment with rituals of hazing to mark one another’s entrance into manhood. Simultaneously, perpetuating destructive brotherhood that can often occur when men depend on experiences and interactions rooted in hyper-masculinized versions of manhood.
The writing is on the wall. We have to do more! It is not good enough anymore to simply find the “best guys” on campus to be a part of the group and expect things to get better.
I believe there needs to be a clearly defined and modernized path of membership that guides these young men to maturity and confidence in their own masculinity, regardless of what that looks like. I believe it is our duty as leaders within the fraternal community to properly support the young men that will make the choice to move beyond what history has previously defined for us as manhood.
It is our duty to provide them with teaching and examples of responsibility, love, and devotion as caring sons, brothers, fathers, and leaders, while working together to preserve the uniqueness of the male experience through fraternity. When we make the choice to do this, we will see the change we are all so desperately hoping for. Personally, I hope you will join me in making this decision because I am not willing to sit on the sidelines and watch another young man be lost to a system that we have the power to change.
[Presented at #AFAAM 2017 by Jessica Gendron Williams, Jason Allen, KJ McNamara, and Matt Mattson]
Today’s college students might be the most edited, filtered, self-conscious and insecure population of their age range to date. And that’s not their fault. This generation, like those before them, are a product of their times. Social media, the previous election and its polarizing results, as well as the shame-producing economic crises they were raised in, have challenged current students’ ability to discuss opinions, feelings, and view points without feeling intense isolation. This is a population of students that are arriving to their university experience with very different baggage, very real scars, and very complex emotional identities.
And these are the students that are now filling our fraternities and sororities. Our fraternal industry promotes itself as this perfected and edited image of popularity and friendship — seemingly a shortcut to the living an idealized Instagrammable life — and that must be attactive to many of hte most insecure and socially frightened students in their peer group. This manifests into toxic expressions of masculinity, dangerous drug and alcohol cultures, and intensely suffering self-worth.
Let’s look at the realities of what these students are carrying around in their uniquely heavy baggage, then let’s consider the implications of this audience on the fraternity/sorority industry. There are at least six contributing factors that have shaped the emotional scars that they arrive at the university bearing.
1. SOCIAL MEDIA. Let’s start here. Today’s college students simply do not spend as much time, in person, with their friends. From this article (which cites a UCLA Higher Education Reseach Institute study) we learn that “The average freshman used to socialize for 16+ hours on any given week, but no longer. That percentage is at a record low, dropping from 34% to 18% of students in the past 10 years.” The article continues by pointing out that “Time spent on virtual social netowrking platforms continues to scale rapidly — from 19% of students spending 16+ hours per week in 2007, to 27% of students today.” This says nothing of the now commonly understood phenomenon of social media envy (easy article here); we see others through the lens of their posed, filtered, cropped, intentionally perfect-looking social media stories. The damage being done related to body image, self-worth, personal fulfillment, etc. is almost undeniable.
2. DEMOGRAPHIC SHIFTS. What many in higher education already know is that today’s college students are dramatically different than the stereotypical 4-year, 18-22 year-old, residential, mostly white, mostly socio-economically privileged students of lore. The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation provide a wonderful infographic and related resources here. Among other things, we learn that, “Today’s college students come from a wide range of backgrounds and bring an equally diverse set of needs. Among college students today, nearly half (40 percent) are age 25 or older—returning to advance their career or to re-train for a new opportunity. Many students hold full-time jobs while enrolled in classes, one-quarter are parents, and many are the first in their family to attend college.” This group of students is overburdened financially, over scheduled, reconsidering the very value of a college education, and having a very different college experience than their parents’ generation may have promised them.
3. MENTAL UN-WELLNESS. “According to the UCLA Higher Education Research Institute annual freshman survey, conducted since 1966, a record high of 11.9 percent of the students in the 2016 incoming class reported ‘frequently’ feeling depressed in the past year, and 13.9 percent said ‘there was a very good chance they would seek personal counseling in college.’ And for the first time in the survey’s history, less than half (47 percent) consider their mental health to be above average relative to their peers.” That passage comes from a great New York Times article you can dig into here. Dig deeper with this article from Psychology Today that reminds us of the increasing suicide rate among 15 to 24-year-olds, and most poignantly illuminates that “Anxiety and depression, in that order, are now the most common mental health diagnoses among college students.” Today’s students are dealing with what seems to be a far more anxiety-ridden life experience, and this is only exacerbated by the high usage rates of opiates and other drugs to mask these health challenges.
4. SOCIETAL DISCORD. The political and societal world around this generation, during their formative years, is in unprecedented turmoil. Weekly shooting rampages. A President from a TV show. Protests in the streets regularly. Trust in traditional institutions being publicly challenged (i.e. police). Identity upheaval (especially race and gender). The very underpinnings of society seem shaky and uncertain. Simply starting a conversation about gender roles or race relations seems irresponsible in a small section of a small article like these because these issues are so complex, so emotionally triggering, and so historically repressed that we couldn’t possibly explore them. But a few simple notes shine a light on these identity-rocking realities. What does it mean to be a man in 2018? Are women safe anywhere when a new high profile figure every day is accused of gross sexual misconduct? Where will the next public shooting rampage happen? How many other questions could we list that incite the same level of anxiety and lack of security to countless other segments of our population?
5. FAILURE TO FAIL. It is unnecessary to rail against “helicopter parents” or “the participation ribbon generation.” That’s been done (and it matters). But the young students who do show up at today’s colleges and universities do have less failure (and learned lessons from that failure) in their backgrounds. This point almost feels cliche at this point, but an interesting related anecdote comes from this NIH article that reports on a survey of high school students’ drug and alcohol use, “Use of many substances is at its lowest level since the survey’s inception, including alcohol, cigarettes, heroin, cocaine, methamphetamine, inhalants, and sedatives.” Students are arriving at college not only with the most trophies and participation ribbons, but also with the least experience with most dangerous substances that they’ll very quickly encounter. On a separate but equally relevant note, students are arriving at colleges and universities with inflated high school grades (see here) and quickly acquiring deflated egos upon their first college experiences.
6. GENERATIONAL CONTEXT. Much has been written on Generation Z. This generation that grew up post 9-11. This generation that experienced its formative years during a major economic crisis which left many of them (and their neighbors) losing their homes and dealing with significant economic uncertainty. This generation that is more diverse, more blended, and more pragmatic, and more worldly than any other. Here’s an article we wrote on our Innova blog a while ago that references Corey Seemiller and Meghan Grace’s book, “Generation Z Goes To College.”
All of these factors have combined to create a group of college students many professionals in the industry might see as “damaged goods.” But whatever cracks, scars, or brokenness they bring to college makes them the norm, not the exception. These students are exactly the students who are currently filling our organizations rosters right now and for years to come. The question becomes, How do we shape our organizations — our fraternities and sororities — to meet their needs and set them up for success?