by Taylor Deer
The future of Fraternity and Sorority lies within finding, recruiting, and training, excellent advisors.
College aged men and women need relatable, charismatic, and knowledgeable leadership from people who are a little bit older and wiser. These folks are often a walking example that life goes on after college, and that these four years shape who you are for the rest of your life. Ideally, we are talking about someone who is young enough to know what a cell phone is and old enough to know that it still calls people; someone who is wise enough to know that a tomato is a fruit, but that it doesn’t belong in a fruit salad; and someone who understands that character is more than just an actor on Netflix.
Advisors should know that values live in action, not on paper. And understand that the tremendous gifts of fraternity are not bought, they are learned, self-made, and given to others. The best advisors are the ones who believe that the world needs better fathers, sons, friends, mentors, and role models, not just more people to use their success to buy a bigger boat. They believe that that the world needs fraternity and sorority to be great. Right now.
Does that sound like you?
It’s cool. Relax.
Nowhere in that paragraph did it mention being “perfect” or “expert”. College aged men and women don’t need perfection because they are already surrounded by it. What they need is a trail-guide, a person who is just a few steps ahead of them on their journey. Someone who has been on that path before and knows the turns and hazards coming up along their way. You don’t have to be Bear Grylls. Most students don’t even know the basics, and they’re lost. Therefore, they don’t need to know how to jump out of a plane, parachute down, and survive on a deserted island. They’re still learning to read the map, trying to figure out what direction they’re headed in, and if that’s the right way to go.
That’s not the student’s fault, it just happens to be where they are in their development. They can’t be a trail expert until they’ve walked the path a few times. That’s where you come in. You’ve been down this path before, or at least a path like it. By using your own experience, you have the power to help them through their journey.
Whether you were chosen to be an advisor, or you just happen to be the only person around, these young students need you. They need you to be great. In the crazy Greek world we live in, there is no room for “okay” advisors anymore. We are here to help you become the experts in the room, even if you think you have no business claiming that expertise.
We are creating a model for recruitment advising. One that helps you guide a chapter’s recruitment efforts. You are likely the only person on the inside of that organization who has a fully developed brain, and we’d like to use it to its fullest.
This is going to be the first in a series of blogs that will help advisors guide their chapters in the world of undergraduate recruitment. Not only will we be teaching the basics of the latest and greatest of undergraduate recruitment, but we will also finally be adding some intentionality and structure to advising a chapter’s recruitment process.
Do the world a favor. Pass this blog onto someone who would be a great role model for young men and women. Even if they don’t believe it themselves. Fraternity and sorority needs them.
by KJ McNamara
I have a lot of different sorority officers, advisors, and members ask me when to begin preparing for their fall formal sorority recruitment. The answer is always this: right now!
I believe that at a successful sorority recruitment will kick off the remainder of the year in the most positive way possible. A positive sorority recruitment means better grades, more people signing up for leadership positions, and better chapter morale. We teach recruitment because we honestly think this is the best way to help our chapters fix all of their other issues.
So, why start preparing for sorority recruitment this early? Simple! It’s because recruitment is the most important three – ten days of your year. This is like the Olympics… you do not show up in Brazil after a few days of half-hearted prep and cramming. You come to Rio de Janeiro in the best shape of your life knowing you are about to bring the heat!
Below is my suggested prep plan. Think of it as your workout regiment!
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The time to start preparing for sorority recruitment is right now! This is our week where we put all of our hopes dreams and motivation into action. There can never be too many workshops, sisterhoods, and brainstorming sessions to help your sorority get the type of women they are looking for to continue to help you grow. If you want help, input, or guidance, please email me anytime at KJ@PhiredUp.com!
by Dr. Colleen Coffey-Melchiorre
Its official, the holiday season is over. Many of you traveled home to Mom’s cooking, Dad’s weird jokes, and your old room with your old trophies and stuffed animals. You probably saw your high school crew, shopped at your favorite places, ate at your favorite restaurants, and rested. This holiday season maybe you found out some interesting things about your crazy Aunt Betty, or ran into your sister’s ex girlfriend, or found yourself in an awkward situation with your Dad’s new golf buddies. Whatever the case, the season has come and gone, and it’s bittersweet. Now, you are going back to school and many of you have formalized recruitment processes to tend with as early as this week! Those that don’t still have a pretty big job ahead.
Here are five things you can do to make sure 2017 is a banner year for you and your chapter:
1) Make a to do list. Literally, get a piece of paper and pen and write down all the stuff you need to accomplish this week, this month, and this semester within your chapter. Don’t leave anything out- write every little task down on this list. When the list is completed consider- who do I need help from? what do I need to be successful with this project? how long will each thing take? Make this list your mantra. Post it wherever you need to in order to look at it everyday, set reminders in your preferred calendar, and start plugging away at this stuff. Sometimes, getting it out there gives stuff such clarity.
2) Check in on your existing membership. Sit down with a roster and consider each person on that roster carefully. How are they doing in the chapter? In school? With their significant other? In general? Are they a person that is connected to people in the chapter or lacks that connection? Also consider who is returning from study abroad or a semester away. Create a list of people that maybe could use a little extra love and appoint yourself and your group of friends as the welcoming committee. Reach out to each person that may need it (we all do at some point) and ask about their break, ask them to hang out at a specific time, and if it moves you, ask them what they hope their chapter experience will be like this semester.
3) Make resolutions with your chapter. The very first chapter meeting back to school, engage your members in a facilitated conversation where you ask the general membership intentional questions. You can have them write their answers to themselves and then share in small groups and with the larger group, or just ask as a big group conversation.
STEP ONE- Ask them some of these questions:
STEP TWO- Find commonalities among what they are all saying. Finding common themes is not hard you just listen for words that are said over and over again.
STEP THREE- Create a resolution based on those themes. It can look like anything a sentence, three words, a paragraph- just put something out there that says: “This year we resolve to…
4) Review the recruitment basics. We here at Phired Up say it all the time- people join people. Go back to basics.
5) Fall in love again. I try to fall in love everyday with something, someone, some place or some circumstance. Remind yourself why you joined this group and why you stay in it!
We can’t wait to support you in 2017, and we can’t wait to see what you accomplish this year. We are all here, cheering you on this year and beyond.
Don’t hesitate to contact Dr. Melchiorre for a little motherly love this year – she’s a great texter and even better talker on the phone: 615.260.5055.